17 Mar How Long Does Infidelity Trauma Last?
(and why divorcing your husband after he cheats isn’t the only answer)
When your husband cheats, you might consider divorce as a way to start with a clean slate, but I’m here to tell you that it’s not that easy of a fix.
Emotional baggage from infidelity can linger and weigh you down in future relationships if you don’t address and heal it first.
The good news is that healing is possible, and it doesn’t have to take years or even decades. As a relationship expert specializing in helping married women overcome their husband’s infidelity, my goal is to guide you through the process of shedding your emotional baggage for good, whether you choose to stay in your marriage or leave.
In this blog post, I’ll share with you three potential scenarios of life after infidelity and guide you on the path to healing and moving forward.
The Three Potential Scenarios For Life After Infidelity
Scenario 1: Your emotional trauma lasts decades
In the age of information, we often turn to Google for answers. But, when it comes to dealing with infidelity, the advice you find online might be outdated and ultimately lead you down a rabbit hole that leaves you more confused than ever.
I worked with a client named Jeni who couldn’t decide if she wanted to stay in her marriage, or leave, after her husband’s infidelity.
She tried everything Google suggested—therapy, books, podcasts, and coaching—to heal from the emotional pain and distrust, but she remained stuck in a never-ending cycle of turmoil for twenty-seven years.
Because following Google will only send you the traditional route. But the traditional route is outdated, and decades later, after all that work, your emotional trauma is ruling your life.
Scenario 2: Your emotional trauma becomes manageable after the first year
Some people, like my client Melissa, may put on a brave face and maintain the appearance of having it all together while secretly struggling with the emotional weight of infidelity.
When I worked with Melissa, she appeared to have the perfect life from the outside, but she was actually feeling numb and disconnected from herself, her husband, and her children.
Despite keeping up appearances, she was suppressing her pain and anger, feeling numb and disconnected from herself, her husband, and her children. And losing her true self in the process.
In this scenario, you feel as though you’ve mastered your trauma … but instead, it has learned to master you.
Scenario 3: Your emotional trauma can be cleared within 90 days
It may sound too good to be true, but healing from infidelity trauma in just 90 days is absolutely achievable. With the right approach and guidance, you can quickly overcome the emotional pain and move forward.
One of my clients, Kristen, found relief after joining our Beyond Breath community. I think her words say it better than I ever could:
“I don’t think I could ever go back to a therapist. The experience I feel like I am getting and I am seeing in myself is 1000 times different from the five therapists I’ve seen throughout the course of my marriage. Every time I was there I would just catch them up with everything that happened in the prior two weeks.”
This rapid transformation is a testament to the power of specialized support and a focused approach.
You’re probably wondering how this approach can possibly work. Let’s take a quick look at the science.
The Science Behind Healing In 90 Days
Healing from infidelity trauma in just 90 days may seem unbelievable, but it’s backed by science.
When you intentionally practice new behaviors and thought patterns, you create new neural pathways in your brain that ultimately lead to lasting change.
According to Dr. Susan Rieck, Medical Director for DDM-Ascend, it takes approximately 10,000 repetitions, or a minimum of three months of practice, to develop a new neural pathway and master a new pattern of behavior.
This means that with consistent effort and guidance, you can overcome emotional trauma and regain control of your life in a relatively short amount of time.
The key to rapid healing lies in a targeted, specialized approach that goes beyond traditional therapy and self-help resources. By focusing on addressing the root cause of emotional trauma and providing the right tools and techniques, you can achieve a level of transformation that would otherwise take years to accomplish.
My Approach To Healing Infidelity Trauma
I have created a powerful program designed to help women find healing and transformation after infidelity. My Beyond Breath community is a nurturing and supportive environment where participants can learn, grow, and heal together.
My approach offers a refreshing and effective alternative to traditional therapy and self-help methods, helping women break free from the pain of infidelity and embrace a brighter, happier future.
If you’d love to experience the same transformational healing for yourself and your marriage and you don’t want to waste years trying to figure it out on your own, I invite you to join my free masterclass where I walk you through the exact system to make this happen.