10 Mar How to Work Through Infidelity: Three Powerful Steps to Healing
Infidelity is linked to 20-40% of divorces (according to a survey done by the American Psychological Association in 2021). It’s a painful experience that can leave you feeling betrayed, hopeless and lost.
But what if I told you that working through infidelity is possible? That there are tools and steps you can take to heal and create a beautiful marriage, instead of becoming another divorce statistic?
If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve experienced infidelity in your marriage, and you’re looking for a way to work through it. You’re tired of going down the standard road of marriage counseling, self-help books, and podcasts, and you’re ready for a more effective method.
In this blog post, we’ll explore the three empowering steps to work through infidelity. But before we dive into those steps, let’s take a look at Becky’s story – a woman who thought divorce was her only option after her husband’s infidelity, until she discovered these steps.
From the Brink of Divorce: Becky’s Journey to Healing After Infidelity
Becky never thought she would be considering divorce. But after her husband’s infidelity, she didn’t know how to move forward.
She found herself easily triggered by small things, like when her husband didn’t text her when he left the office. She couldn’t sleep and her work began to suffer as she became consumed with trying to control her marriage so she could regain the feelings of safety and security she used to have.
Despite trying everything from marriage counseling to therapy sessions to self-help books, the triggers and sleepless nights persisted. She felt like she was out of options and that the only way to save her sanity was to leave him.
That’s when our paths crossed, and I shared with her three empowering steps to work through infidelity. As she worked through these steps, Becky began to see progress in her healing journey. They helped her release the emotional trauma and remove triggers from her body, rebuild trust and intuition, and reconnect with who she used to be. She was able to gain a sense of calm, peace, and clarity that she hadn’t felt in ages.
She learned that this healing journey was not just about fixing the marriage, but about personal transformation.
The Three Empowering Steps to Heal After Infidelity
Infidelity is a traumatic experience that can leave deep emotional scars. To truly work through infidelity and heal from its aftermath, it’s important to have the right tools and guidance. Here are the three empowering steps that helped Becky work through infidelity:
Step 1: Release Emotional Trauma and Remove Triggers
After experiencing infidelity, the brain reacts in the same way it does after a traumatic brain injury. This can lead to feelings of anxiety, panic attacks, insomnia, and a constant questioning and analyzing of everything. So, you’re triggered by things that never used to bother you, like when your husband is 10 minutes late coming home.
To work through this, it’s essential to physically clear the emotional trauma from your body.
Reading another self-help book or attending another therapy session won’t fix this because there’s no mind-body connection. You’ll likely still be stuck in your own head with ruminating spiraling thoughts, and questioning everything.
But when you release emotional trauma it will leave you feeling calmer, clearer, and more peaceful. From here, you’ll be better equipped to make decisions that are right for you, whether that means staying in your marriage or moving on.
Step 2: Rebuild Trust and Intuition
After releasing the emotional trauma from your body, it’s time to focus on reconnecting with yourself. Many women who experience infidelity feel like they’ve lost a part of themselves. They become distant, numb, and build walls to protect themselves from further hurt.
However, this only leaves them feeling more confused and disconnected from themselves. It’s natural to want to protect yourself, but this can lead to blurring the lines between what you truly want and what you think your partner wants. This can make it difficult to trust your own thoughts and intuition.
To rebuild trust in your marriage, it’s essential to first rebuild trust with yourself. This means reconnecting with your intuition and your authentic self. By doing this, you’ll be able to make decisions that are true to yourself and feel confident in speaking your truth. This will create a stronger inner world that will be reflected in your external world.
Step 3: Reconnect with Who You Used to Be
The final step in the healing journey is reconnecting with who you used to be.
This means reconnecting with the version of yourself that was originally attracted to your partner. By doing so, you’ll be able to strengthen your marriage if you decide to stay, or gain the confidence to create the life you want even if you decide to leave.
The Next Step to Work Through Infidelity and Find Your Way Back
Infidelity can be a challenging and painful experience, but it’s important to remember that it’s not a divorce sentence. By following these three steps, it’s possible to work through infidelity and come out stronger on the other side.
Don’t forget that healing from infidelity is a journey, and it’s okay to take your time. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions, and don’t be afraid to seek help when you need it.
If what I’ve shared in this post resonates with you and you’d like an even deeper dive into truly healing after infidelity and rebuilding the marriage you want – click here to join my free masterclass where I show you exactly how to do this.