14 Apr Is My Marriage Over After My Husband Cheated?
How to Rebuild Trust and Find Forgiveness in Your Marriage after Infidelity
Have you ever told yourself that if your husband ever cheated, you’d leave him in a heartbeat? But now, faced with the reality of that situation, you’re realizing that packing your bags and leaving isn’t quite that simple.
Yes, he messed up big time, but a part of you really wants to give him another chance. You still love each other, after all, and there’s a lot of good in your relationship worth saving.
The Dilemma: Stay or Leave?
Everyone around you is probably telling you all the reasons marriage can never work after infidelity. They’re saying things like, “Once a cheater, always a cheater,” or “He’s made his choice, it’s time for you to move on.”
You’re left stuck in this place of indecision, not ready to leave but also not ready to forgive him just yet. So, you build up walls to protect yourself while you wait for a sign on whether to stay or leave, but during this waiting game, the one who’s truly missing out on living is you.
Amanda’s Story: Finding Forgiveness After Infidelity
The same thing happened to my client, Amanda. She and her husband were high school sweethearts and had been married for 16 years when she started working with me.
After the affair, they went straight to couples therapy, but the therapist sided with him, leaving Amanda feeling unheard and unhelped.
She thought therapy was supposed to be about “them” but it only ended up being about him and it left her wondering if she wanted to stay in her marriage because the things they were trying were not helpful.
Amanda couldn’t stop reliving the trauma, and her anger and resentment were suffocating her.
But now, she says she is living her forgiveness. She can breathe again, and her heart feels still. Her relationship with her husband is flourishing.
Divorce is Not the Only Answer
As you can see from Amanda’s story, divorce is definitely not the only answer after infidelity. In fact, some clients come to me even after they got divorced because they ended up bringing all the distrust, triggers, and emotional baggage with them to their new relationship.
They thought they could simply escape the past instead of working through the pain, but the trauma of infidelity followed them into every new relationship until they did the internal work necessary to truly heal.
The Path to Healing and Rebuilding
I experienced infidelity in my marriage, too. And found that traditional methods didn’t work to help me heal myself or my marriage. I knew more therapy sessions and marriage podcasts weren’t the answer, and I knew I didn’t want to leave, so I went out looking for a better solution – and thankfully, I found it.
To have exactly what you want with your husband, you need to go a little deeper and do the internal work first.
The trauma you experienced as a result of his infidelity is blocking you from moving forward. It’s creating triggers that keep you stuck on the emotional rollercoaster and the fear of making the wrong decision, which leaves you waiting.
But there is a way to release that emotional trauma so you’re no longer stuck in limbo waiting for something outside your control to happen. There’s a way to feel relaxed, at ease, and confident in your marriage even after infidelity.
Moving Forward: A New Approach to Healing Your Marriage
If you’re looking for a new way to heal your marriage for good without years of therapy or becoming a shell of who you used to be, I invite you to join my free masterclass where I walk you through the steps to heal infidelity trauma for good and rebuild a thriving marriage on your terms. Click here to access this free training.
And remember, it’s totally possible for you to have the marriage you desire – all you need to do is take that first step towards healing.